Dockyard Social

With Lockdown easing we have more opportunities to catch up with friends, get out and enjoy some good food.

The Dock Yard Social

But not everybody is confident about this.I have learnt talking to parents that they feel anxious .So this blog will be short to the point hopefully and talk about our visit to The Dockyard Social which will hopefully help other parents and anybody really just feel confident to get back to some normally.

I think it’s best to start at the beginning what is DockYard Social?

A converted warehouse based in Glasgow’s coolest area Finnieston .

Inside it you will find 10 street vendors (reduced vendors at the moment)that rotate every 2 weeks. The great thing is the street vendors are all different your taste buds really do get to travel around the world .

I had been several times before lockdown to events and drinks with friends and really enjoyed all my visits. This made me eager to see what changes would be in place

We checked on their web page and I was surprised we could book tickets for the Saturday for free!.

On arriving we noticed straight away more space the bus was gone I was delighted Thea was not ( Thea use to love running up and down the bus having a rammy ) but this frees up areas as does the fact there is less vendors less maybe but still plenty to keep two families going.

Also a very clear one way system to help you understand the layout.

There are signs for social distancing clearly set up around the venue. We were taken to our table which was a massive picnic bench. We had plenty of room away from all other visitors and somebody comes to take your drinks (in mask )order leaving us to settle the toddlers, baby and dog in.

That meant it was time for the daddies to go round the vendors and start ordering as always our eyes were bigger than our stomachs but you can’t blame us the smells of different flavours of cooking away beside you is immense.

Choices choices choices

I always find at Dockyard Social they have something for everyone all the times I have been there with family and friends no one goes away hungry.

Food glorious food

I have missed seeing my friends and having nice food it’s been a stressful few months so I was so grateful to have a stress free afternoon as a family with friends

So we stayed the an hour and a half we talked, we laughed, we ate it felt normal, it felt good and most importantly it felt safe.

A couple of points I want to highlight for you

Family friendly- Dockyard Social has a reputation for being family friendly and wow it still is we had 3 under 3 so you know they are there everyone was brilliant with them. I often get anxious but they were awesome at making us all feel welcome

Dog friendly,dogs are welcome which I love Thea loves dogs and they keep her entertained the more the better.

Atmosphere it was great no music no problem the venue is great when you walk through that door it’s like another world with all the vendors.The artwork is great and just adds to the chilled laid back atmosphere. Coming from someone who is generally very anxious that’s some achievement.

The food where to begin ,you have burgers, kebabs , curry’s , brownies, churros , sweet potato fries so good, name a few a brilliant mixture for all. Including fantastic vegan options those fries omg!!.

So overall if you want to try different foods and catch up with friends (as long as the FM says it’s okay) and feel safe Dockyard Social is the perfect choice for you.

Our visit was on a Saturday in August 2020

Open Friday/Saturday/Sunday

https://www.dockyardsocial.com

Family friendly perfect for a play date

Lockdown 2020 : I have 99 Problems but Bog Rolls are not one

Since the 23rd March we have been put into lockdown (some will argue we are not in lockdown but that’s not the point of this post)

Our lives changed over night , during the 21 days since we have witnessed some amazing sights and some not so amazing this post will talk about them.

1) Bog Roll . In Britain we know now the answer to the old question “if your stranded on a island what one item would you take” “Bog Roll and make it a 36 pack” . Crazy absolute mayhem in supermarkets. Will we ever know what those people were thinking buying a 100 bog rolls at a time .

2) Clap for our Carers every Thursday night 8pm we open our front doors , get the pots out and bang and cheer. To show our support to all the key workers keeping us safe during this time. I love this it’s really bringing the community spirit back. The 1st night I had a shiver up my spin hearing everyone cheer. I so nice to see people appreciate people.

3) How important a walk and fresh air are . I don’t think I have ever appreciated a simple walk so much. It’s a tough one I found myself guilty for taking my daily exercise but this takes me into point 4

4) No matter what is going on in the world there are going to be twats that don’t listen . Yes you the bog roll warriors , the people having BBQ’s on beaches and having house parties.

5) Schools Out Yes every parents worst nightmare became reality. The schools closed and parents everywhere grabbed a large drink. While everyone without laughed. As a friend said to me “I am living the dream getting paid to play computer games” .

6) Boris got ill and our daily updates got less interesting . Our leader got the virus or did he?. Anyways he disappeared from our screens and I felt the replacements seemed sort of lost witch is saying something as Boris normally looks like a rabbit in the headlights

7) We will not run out of bog roll

8) Social Distancing became a thing told to avoid all contact with others unless essential being an anxious introvert I rejoiced until I found out my toddler was classed as essential . She has taking social distancing the opposite way and won’t leave our side constantly saying “Play with me “ . I look forward to the day I get to go to work and have a day off enough said on that .

9) Football Football Football. It stopped it’s still stopped. We miss it. But I do think what a shambles and a missed opportunity for clubs to work together with communities but there is still time for this to work.

10)Pubs and shops bordered up I woke up went for my early walk and thought I was in the walking dead. Proper doomsday stuff I don’t blame them I live in Glasgow if it’s not nailed down it will be gone.

So lockdown so far has been interesting and challenging for some more than others. We will all experience it differently this post is just my light hearted thoughts. I hope you can relate and it maybe raises a smile.

Having Dyslexia and not knowing you have Dyslexia

At the age of 29 years old I did a check/ test with Dyslexia Scotland to see if I had dyslexia or in my words “I’m I just thick and lazy” like many of my teachers had implied.

After the test which involved puzzles , sequences and words . The report I got basically said moderate / to severe dyslexia and I also had a processing delay , I found it hard to understand instructions and problem solve. I had felt that for years I would be asked to do a task but it was like I was being spoke to in a foreign language . I never said anything and took the jokes or the annoyance of co-workers or managers.

Why did I do nothing?.

Imagine every school report and teacher say your lazy, doesn’t study , complete homework and isn’t teaching their potential. To say my confidence was shot is an understatement , I’m actually getting quite emotional writing about it. 13 years of education the best time of your life, I don’t think so I hated it and have an anger towards the education system how could they let this happen and then the teachers yes it was the 80’s and 90’s but the way the spoke to me and treated me was a disgrace and has definitely affected my mental health as a teenager and young adult . How can you put a child constantly down and not help them?.

Right enough of feeling sorry for myself and ranting.

How my dyslexia and processing delay affect me ?.

I’m going to start with how it affects my Instagram . When writing a post it can take several attempts . Why well I sometimes miss out words and even when reading it through I won’t know it’s missing. You see my reading is horrible if I’m reading a book I need total silence or I just don’t take it in. I often read the same line or page over and over again. So my posts can take an age to put together.

Onto spelling , I could say I can’t spell but that’s not totally right. I can but it’s like my brain muddles up the words and spits them out back to front and plays tricks on me. It looks right to me and I have the right letters but in the wrong places. It is incredibly frustrating as I often can’t use words I want to as I have no idea how to spell them or I’m scared I will be pulled up for my mistakes .

When I’m writing I struggle to make it all link together , I struggle with the grammar and punctuation I just sometimes miss it out.

I think this can be related to my audrity processing delay. I struggle with instructions verbally but also understanding skills like writing. I remember trying to learn about writing skills in school I had no idea what the teachers were asking of me so I had to self teach myself and come up with defence mechanisms to survive . God forbid the teacher asked me in class or read out my work talk about an anxiety bomb.

So how do I cope for college I had a scribe I would tell them what I was trying to say and they would put it in to proper English I also got funding for a proof reader which was fantastic. I unfortunately never got this help at university . I felt they wanted us to be robots “to pass this course you must write the way we want you to” this was never going to work my content and understanding was good but it didn’t read like university papers I soon dropped out.

Day to day I will ask family and friends to check my work but I can’t do this for every post it just wouldn’t work. Also when somebody checks your work they change it . It no longer sounds like me.

Honesty I am up front now on forms I put down I will need support or extra time and in work situations I will tell people. I may take a little longer to respond . I feel this helps me relax and what else can I do ?.

I love writing and posting it’s amazing for clearing my mind and moving on. It stops me from overthinking and keeping my anxiety in check . I also have journals with lists and thoughts but sorry they are just for me .

I hope this post helps you understand the difficulties I have when writing and maybe encourages some others with dyslexia to start writing or share their experiences.

Restaurant Review: The Hebridean

It was mid October and mid -week and the wife and myself had a rare night off from Thea. Off we set to Ashton Lane and off to the warmth of The Ubiquitous Chip . After a couple of pints of Furstenberg and standing beside the fire hunger kicked in …

I was pretty adamant that the only place I wanted to try was The Herbridean you see I have been to 111 by Nico and it was great. I had heard mixed reviews on line from The Herbridean and was determined to try it for myself.

Once arriving one can only describe the atmosphere as electric , you see it was MOD week (Scotland’s Premier Gaelic festival don’t you know ). This meant we had a delightful Gaelic Trad band keeping us entertained throughout .

So I’m going to break this review down let’s start with the food

Nibbles : Sourdough bread an goose fat butter and olives

The bread and butter was to die for and the Olives just salty enough for you to keep going back for more

Starters : Arbroath Smoky croquette and

Charlie Barley Black Pudding and Crispy pigs head terraine

I had the croquette fishy and smokey but not too much . The best part the crispy ness of the croquettes

The terraine well that packed a punch and it’s hearty . I honestly didn’t know what to expect

But it was lovely crispy but nice and soft with the black pudding.

Mains : Venison Wellington from the specials menu no picture of this it didn’t last long . So much can go wrong with this dish soggy over done to name a couple . But not this one pastry flaky and venison cooked to perfection and lovely and tender.

Haggis Nepps and tatties

Perfect after a heavy starter according to Harriet it is soft , creamy , peppery and just perfect with The Molinillo Malbec we decided to shsre

Service

We arrived about 8.30pm it was busy and noisy but not that you would notice that by the service. I was really impressed and I can be picky after working in the hospitality industry . I can’t fault it attentive but not over bearing , no rush , and generally very nice which can be rare now adays . One little thing we had a small table by the wall and myself being 6ft 1 I was slightly closer to the gentleman behind me than I would like but as I said very small issue and we hadn’t booked a table .

Value

We had 2 coffees and a bottle of wine on top of the food. I read a newspaper review which said about the price we paid just shy of £100 including tip £50 each but I wasn’t watching the pennies I could of ate and drank cheaper from the menu . I was stuffed at the end so in my eyes worth while . I feel as if you pay for an experience not just the food it’s the location , vibes, atmosphere and service your paying for now. No doubt I will be back soon when I can get a baby sitter

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Returning to Work after having a Child

When Thea was 1 years old I have to admit , I was in not a great place. Due to a hell a lot of things but I have to say my work life was hell.

I had fallen out of love of the education system and needed out. Harriet had just started to work for herself so we decided for myself to take a time out and stay at home with Thea . I mean I was trained in early years so why not . I stayed at home for almost a year and loved it. I built an amazing bond with Thea and it let Harriet’s business grow and flourish .

While at home I did some chaperoning which is looking after children on set I really enjoyed it and when in June I got the opportunity to work on a new BBC kids drama (The Demon Headmaster check it out on CBBC on Monday’s at 5pm )full time it was to good to turn down. I thought going back  to work would change our home life  but it really changed and I guess that’s the same for all parents returning to work .

There is good points and bad points to this so here’s what have found out since returning to work .
Let’s start with the positives :

Money Money Money – Having another income is great we can save ,book a holiday and have treats with Thea at the weekend.

Adult interaction – It’s great to spend time with other adults saying that we behave like children most of the time .

Self worth – working for me builds my self esteem bringing a wage into the family home . Also the self satisfaction of working on a project from start to finish feels great .

Reflection- working long hrs makes you realise what is important in life. It also focuses myself .

Mental Health- I feel mentally much stronger . My confidence is growing meaning my self worth has gone up. On top of that putting myself into new and stressful situations has helped control my anxiety .

Right next up the negatives :

Being away from Thea at 1st it wasn’t bad, but now she knows. When I’m getting ready to leave I get “No No” and sometimes a slap and that’s if she is awake . Sometimes I only see her in the middle of the night to change her nappy that’s hard .

Physically knackered : Being out the house for 14-15 hrs a day brutal . It takes a while for your body and mind to get use to that. Walking 20,000-25,000 steps a day your diet has to change 

Quality time : I say I don’t see Thea it’s the same with Harriet . I’m knackered when I’m back home at the moment so it can be quiet in the house. Meals out and days out haven’t been happening as much. I need to change that and get in a better routine. 

Guilt- what do feel guilty about literally everything at first, but I feel this passes and once you talk about it that helps .

Stress/mental health I’m putting this in as I know in the past my work I hated and it brought on this. Thankfully on returning to work I haven’t suffered this. Why most likely it’s down to being  in a better place. I mean that’s why I went back to work . I’m also on medication so I’m guessing that should get some credit too. If your mental health is taking a battering at work please talk about it to someone straight away don’t let it affect your home life .

Right so overall :

I can sit on the fence and say just do what you feel is right , but deciding to be a stay at home parent or a parent returning to work has a major impact on not just you but your partner and your children .

A prime example is this I had a dad in the an old nursery doing a visit his child was going to start nursery full time at one years old. He couldn’t answer any of the questions I had but told me they had another on the way and the child had to go to nursery .

I’m not saying don’t work , don’t send your child to nursery , but you need a balance and you need to think what you really want. We all have different goals and priorities it’s your choice but remember they are not kids forever .

I like being self employed it’s flexible , I’m my own boss and it works for me and Thea . Could I earn more money yeah but the more you earn the more you spend in my experience . But I do think Day release sorry work is good for the soul and mind which will is good for you and also your family