Potty training during Lockdown

Let’s start with this “Oh yes a perfect time for potty training,is lockdown “ this was the response from most people when we talked about Thea beginning to use the toilet.

I’m going to save a fortune

My question to them is, how the bloody hell do you know, as far I’m aware this is the 1st lockdown and I’m sure if we had one before it wasn’t used for toilet/potty training but maybe I missed something.

Onto my second moan what the bloody hell do you call it, I got pulled up for calling it potty training but toilet training sounds not right either. I mean no offence but I am going to use the term potty training in this blog my anxiety levels are at full capacity after 3 -4 months of lockdown with a toddler.

So Tony get back on track, we decided to start Thea potty training when lockdown started aren’t we fun parents. It has been interesting to say the least we ran out of frozen pants use your imagination on that one.

But how did it go I’m going to bullet point some of our journey ( some people get to go on a journey around the world this journey was not like that).

1) Potty training is a journey some days are better than others. Thea was eager to learn but basically some days she just wanted to poo in her pants. The reasons I’m not happy, I’m tired and there is a monster in the potty.

2) We found having a routine helped potty beside the bed for morning and night,gently reminding her to go. This worked well but some days the potty would just get launched across the room.

3) Pees are way easier than poo’s well this is what Thea was like. Poo’s for along time were done in her pants in our closet in the dark.

4) Take a break if it gets intense, don’t stress and we don’t want our little ones getting upset. It will only take longer and you don’t want them being scared it will only make a bigger problem

5) Working with children I know that toilet training can be sped up with siblings and watching their peers in nursery. This were I think lockdown is not always the best time. Imagine all your life happy pooping in your nappy. Then your mummy or daddy says you don’t do that you do A,B,C your toddler if stubborn might tell you to do one as they don’t believe you.

Some days it’s not worth the battle

6) Reward chart again used in nursery or stickers we had stickers went down a storm. We spoke to Thea about potty training loads and loads. Thea loves stickers she wanted Peppa pig ones so pretty simple and we would hand them out at night and just encourage and praise her.

7)Nursery taught me this one children are all unique and different. Of course take advice but don’t get upset if it doesn’t work for you. Seeing headlines on social media saying my kid potty trained in a week is crazy good for them but in the majority it takes longer. I have potty trained someone in a nursery setting in a week but that’s totally different from the Lockdown situation. In my experience it takes as long as it takes you want them to be confident and independent not traumatised.

8) But really what do I know. I don’t even know if Thea fully trained. I mean the only toilet she has used is the one in the house. I have no idea in a social situation if she will ask her teacher or know to go only time will tell.

Stay calm even when others are having a melt

Mental Health Awareness Week 2020

So this years theme “Kindness” and let’s be honest with lockdown in almost its 10th week as I write this we could all do with some lovely kind words.

Kindness

We are going through the unknown we have never had something like this in my generation .

Which means we don’t really know how to react or think . We are told by social media and the news to stay positive but on the same sites told of doom and gloom or worse you witness hate as people argue their points not willing to be wrong or knowing the damage they cause to others .

My question is why not just be kind or as I tell the children pay a complement,make someone smile or if you are annoyed take a deep breath and talk about it. Surely you would prefer to brighten someone’s day rather than ruin it. Often by being kind you will get someone to open up you may even find out you have helped them what a great feeling.

A prime example of kindness is our Thursday night routine of banging our pots and decorating our windows in support for key workers some gestures that bring people together when in isolation. What I have noticed is the smiles it brings to peoples faces .

This leads me onto my thoughts of kindness why are we kind ?. For me when I link it to my mental health . I want to be kind to help people. You never know what someone is going through are they suffering. You can look amazing and be faking it to Oscar level but inside be crumbling and drowning.

I guess we have had all experienced kindness and unkindness. Think of how you felt when you received this kindness I’m sure it was 100 time’s better than the unkindness you received.

Think isn’t it so much nicer to be kind

Think you can make people feel that by supporting someone or just listening to what someone is going through . You may of been through something similar. So if you can choose to be kind.

I want to round this off with why mental health awareness week is so important to me. It gives us a chance to talk about mental health so hopefully we can end the stigma behind. Obviously this takes time but my big driving force is Thea and working with children I want them to feel safe and secure when talking about their feelings.

Lockdown this year is going to have a massive affect on them anything up to maybe 5/6 months of missing school,nursery, playgroups is a massive amount of time to miss out on.

Missing out on social interaction and new experiences

I know lots of my training in Early Years Education was on the importance of social interaction for 2-6 year olds especially and what can happen if they miss out on this .

They will need our kindness over the next few months even when lockdown is raised . Our kindness will keep their chins up and encourage them to be open about their feelings and help us understand them.

But why stop with children if we can be kind to children we can be kind to each other too. During the next few months lots of us may go through difficult time’s let’s build each other up by being kind instead of tearing each other down . I think you may find it beneficial to yourself and the people you are helping

Don’t be a dick be kind

Lockdown 2020 : I have 99 Problems but Bog Rolls are not one

Since the 23rd March we have been put into lockdown (some will argue we are not in lockdown but that’s not the point of this post)

Our lives changed over night , during the 21 days since we have witnessed some amazing sights and some not so amazing this post will talk about them.

1) Bog Roll . In Britain we know now the answer to the old question “if your stranded on a island what one item would you take” “Bog Roll and make it a 36 pack” . Crazy absolute mayhem in supermarkets. Will we ever know what those people were thinking buying a 100 bog rolls at a time .

2) Clap for our Carers every Thursday night 8pm we open our front doors , get the pots out and bang and cheer. To show our support to all the key workers keeping us safe during this time. I love this it’s really bringing the community spirit back. The 1st night I had a shiver up my spin hearing everyone cheer. I so nice to see people appreciate people.

3) How important a walk and fresh air are . I don’t think I have ever appreciated a simple walk so much. It’s a tough one I found myself guilty for taking my daily exercise but this takes me into point 4

4) No matter what is going on in the world there are going to be twats that don’t listen . Yes you the bog roll warriors , the people having BBQ’s on beaches and having house parties.

5) Schools Out Yes every parents worst nightmare became reality. The schools closed and parents everywhere grabbed a large drink. While everyone without laughed. As a friend said to me “I am living the dream getting paid to play computer games” .

6) Boris got ill and our daily updates got less interesting . Our leader got the virus or did he?. Anyways he disappeared from our screens and I felt the replacements seemed sort of lost witch is saying something as Boris normally looks like a rabbit in the headlights

7) We will not run out of bog roll

8) Social Distancing became a thing told to avoid all contact with others unless essential being an anxious introvert I rejoiced until I found out my toddler was classed as essential . She has taking social distancing the opposite way and won’t leave our side constantly saying “Play with me “ . I look forward to the day I get to go to work and have a day off enough said on that .

9) Football Football Football. It stopped it’s still stopped. We miss it. But I do think what a shambles and a missed opportunity for clubs to work together with communities but there is still time for this to work.

10)Pubs and shops bordered up I woke up went for my early walk and thought I was in the walking dead. Proper doomsday stuff I don’t blame them I live in Glasgow if it’s not nailed down it will be gone.

So lockdown so far has been interesting and challenging for some more than others. We will all experience it differently this post is just my light hearted thoughts. I hope you can relate and it maybe raises a smile.